![]() It’s equally important to examine the context behind the scene. ![]() What words or titles turn you on? What language turns you off?Īre there any hot buttons you don’t want to touch? ![]() Humiliation may be your cup of tea… but if your partner has been traumatized by catholic school punishments it may not be the best fit for a scene with them.ĭiscover what language is preferred - and what’s out of bounds - with questions like: However being “Daddy’s Good Girl” could be a turn on and encourage more “good behavior” Someone may LOVE being called a "naughty little slut… or it may trigger a shame spiral, pulling them out of the scene and into a bad headspace. The language you use within the scene has the ability to make it or break it. When it’s all said and done, how do you both want to feel?Īre there health issues or medication I should know about? Is there sex? Is there no sex? (Contrary to common belief, sex and BDSM don’t always have to be together.) Will you use toys? If so, what toys will you use? Here’s what to consider:įirst, determine the container you’re playing in. These fears are perfectly normal - but with the right planning and conversations beforehand they can be put to rest, freeing you and your partner up to have a rockin’ scene. When you enter this particular anxiety spiral, take a sec to stop and breathe. You’ve talked with your partner(s) and you both generally know what the other is comfortable with… but how will you know if you’ve gone too far? Or not far enough? What if you or your partner changes their mind mid scene? What if this turns into a negative experience - how will you and your partner recover? Hard limit means you will never, under any circumstance even consider doing this.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a crop.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.Īcts in which one partner is beaten hard.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a paddle.Īcts in which one partner is beaten softly.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a hand.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a strap.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a whip.Negotiating a scene (or a previously planned, consented to, communicated BDSM event for those not in the know… yet □) can be one of the more intimidating things to navigate when you’re first getting into BDSM. Soft limit means you generally will not do this, but you might in the future or if the stars are right. Limit: Things that you DO NOT want to do/to have done to you. You hate this but will put up with it for your partner. You dislike this but will put up with it for your partner. You can take this or leave it, but will probably do it for your partner. This is something that you can't see yourself enjoying a scene/date/relationship without. Maybe you're never tried this, or only once, and want to experience more before deciding how much you like it. Notice that even 1 here means you are willing to do it. Rating: How does/might this feel to you? Use the chart below as a guide. Tried: Have you tried this? Tick the box for Yes. ![]() (In the examples above, you would be delivering the Whipping, or serving your partner a Massage.) (As examples, here Whipping would refer to you being whipped, while Massage would mean you're the one on the table.)ĭone to/for Others: Read this as how you feel about having someone else receive this act. Remember, it's just a beginning to negotiation, not an end in itself.ĭone to/for Self: Read this as how you feel about being on the receiving end of the act. Take it as a blessing in disguise - a bdsm checklist is only supposed to get a conversation started. A sincere effort has been made here to reduce this kind of confusion, but bdsm checklists will never be perfect enough that you won't probably have to go to your partner and confer about how to answer at least one item. there is usually confusion over fetishes that aren't physically interactive between partners or over activities that may not clear as to who is giving and who receiving. When we try to fill them out as Tops, Bottoms, Dominants, Submissives, etc. BDSM/Kink checklist BDSM/Kink electronic checklist Based on the CEPE (Columbia Erotic Power Exchange) printable checklistĬhecklists are frequently difficult to complete due to the complex variety to what we enjoy.
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